This page aims to help you to realise if your behaviour is abusive, and where you can get help to change it.

You may not think that you are abusive towards your partner, and for a variety of reasons you may consider your behaviour is acceptable.

Do you recognise your behaviour in any of the statements below:

• I often stop my partner/family member from seeing friends and family.
• I like my partner/family member to be at home or with me all the time and feel agitated or anxious when they are away from me for example at work.
• I check up on my partner’s/family member’s whereabouts multiple time a day and get frustrated if they do not respond to me immediately.
• My partner/family member says I am overly critical and they are nervous to voice their opinion.
• My partner/family member says they are afraid of me.
• When I lose my temper I have hurt my partner/family member or i am afraid that I will hurt my partner/family member.
• My partner/family member have said I am controlling.
• Sometimes I force my partner to have sex with me when I know they do not want to.
• I control all of our money and do not let my partner/family member have access to it without my permission.
• My partner/family member say I undermine them and confuse them to get what I want.

If you recognise your behaviours in any of the statements above, contact Safer Futures and ask about their Change 4 U programme.